This thread is very interesting! Tay, I would answer to this sadness example that these feelings are based on valid distortions. We get to where we are in a very predictable and understandable way. Things happened to us, we formed reactions and thoughts to these things, and until we recognize them and work through them, they will always be with us. So I would say that instead of looking at it as something that is distorted, I would look at it as something that makes sense considering what we had experienced. It needs to be embraced and worked through in a deep way, not quickly worked through with some superficial CBT.

Wow, I don't have that much control over my feelings. My feelings just come out sometimes and I apoligize if I need to or explain simply but I never feel bad about it (embarrassed). We are human.......... I guess I am in situations that are emotion friendly. If I was in a situation that wasn't emotion friendly I think that I would be able to control my feelings because my need to protect myself would supercede my desire to allow my feelings.