Yeah, I was starting to think that we really are closer in thought than we think we are. No, I'm not against CBT. I used a lot of it to heal. But I see 2 types of CBT going on, a superficial one, which is just "change those thoughts" without looking at what is really going on and a deeper CBT which really goes into looking at where things came from and what they mean.

We are probably looking at the same thing with the children and the thought processes that they go through in response to dysfunction and are really agreeing even though we are using different words. I guess I am looking at a child responding to dysfunction as normal responding on their part so this is why I don't want to call it irrational. They are responding normally to a dysfunctional situation. I guess I feel this distinction is important because it helps to see ourselves in a favorable light and to work with ourselves instead of against ourselves. If we say that we are irrational it sort of discredits us for surviving a terrible situation.