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Old Feb 22, 2010, 10:43 AM
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When children feel that it was their fault there are many reasons for this. Two reasons are: 1) children feel that everything that happens is because of what they did for developmental reasons, 2) the abuser told them it was their fault.
I wanted to add one more to this: 3) it makes intuitive sense. If you beat something you must hate it. If you loved it, you would be nice.

Of course this is face value and not deep thinking on this but when you are in the situation it is a valid conclusion.
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