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Hunny · Feb 22, 2010, 12:28 PM

Sky,

Thank you for the hugs and for this. It is good to be reminded to pace ourself/ves. I really like the question to ask our alter: "Is it okay to know?". It kind of shows a respect for that part that I/we kind of had on the edge of our honeycomb and is not intrusive into their life.

That was then and this is now is kind of a quote/mantra we use frequently, too and am grateful for your reminder with these obvious worried /fearful parts around these pain issues. (a recent experience brought us to the rembrance of the pain issues).

A smoother lifestyle is also for me/us a lifestyle of perspective attached to it...time and distance being important aspects albeit perhaps not or never fully integrated these two aspects create an ability to harmonize gently.

Safety in the present is so important for me/us or my 'pain' part would keep getting re-injured and working on internal healing be made impossible. I/we have secured the most safe situation than ever before in our life/ves. My/our life remains in flux however and therefore safety may change at any given time, although we look at that like it could be for anyone.

The picutre of our pain now looks quite different than what it originally appeared to us when we first drew her. Due to the nature of the part she will always look painful but how can I express except to say with therapy she now looks less painful.

It appears that Sky's ability to 'see' or 'get it' exists despite other obstacles.

Thanks again

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Love,
Hunny

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Quote:

Originally Posted by _Sky

Part of "integration" is becoming aware of all of your parts' feelings and thoughts and reasonings and memories.
People who are DID do not have to integrate.
Many do not fully integrate and become as a "singleton" so to speak.
But becoming aware is a good thing: it's part of the healing process.
It will also help you live a smoother lifestyle.

Yes, by allowing each part to hear the others' stories, there will be tears and frustrations and who knows what else. (The human can respond in so many different ways!)
But if you can remember a very key thing:
That was then, this is now.
It's not happening now.
(This assumes you are safe, and not living in an abusive home!)

Take your time. Don't rush. Don't force information. Don't ask too many questions of yourself. Do ask the other aspects of yourself if it's okay to know ... and you'll be healing.