Okay, i am very confused now on if i should break up with my bf. We have been in a relationship for like 8 months and living together for 5 months. We were friends for years before dating, but only over the Internet. He is from Wyoming so he moved to PA to be with me.

We have had several talks about the possibility of breaking up and I have broken up with him a few times only to change my mind since i still have hope that things will change between us. Our main problem is the way we communicate. We have misunderstandings pretty often and that has lead to us going as many as 1-2 days without speaking to each other. Things have gotten better and we don't do that anymore, but after talking with him recently he told me that he isn't good on picking up hints so he needs me to tell him everything really. That just seems like it's unfair on my part. I would like a relationship where we are partners and the work/communication is 50/50. Am i expecting too much?

He keeps telling me he can change and If he wants to stay then i really need him to prove it to me. He has not found a job in the 5 months we've been together, but i think it's partly his fault cuz he hasn't spent much time looking for one so i really need him to try harder. I need to feel like there's more security in our future. I don't feel like he's the man i want to spend the rest of my life with at the moment.

Just a few days ago, we had a fight cuz he would not help me onto the bed after i had been drinking and feeling sick. I had asked him to help and it seemed to me like he got upset and wouldn't do it so i went into the other room and avoided him for awhile. When we talked about it, he told me that he didn't recall me asking him to and he wasn't upset. He also said he must have not heard me, but i said it in a regular speaking voice and i was right next to him. I don't know what to think there.

He doesn't have a college degree and he's 30. He also has never held a real job before. He has been working for his parents on a ranch for several years. He told me he was going to look into going to college right away to pursue a degree in Psychology and he hasn't even looked into it yet. He just keeps putting important things off. That is really the toughest thing for me to deal with and i need that to change if we're going to make this work.

I know this seems mostly negative, but i do really care about the guy and i believe he does care about me a lot.

I plan on having another talk with him tonight and telling him what i expect from him if he wants to stay in this relationship.

I would appreciate some input on this situation.