Thanks guys! You all gave good advice. I will have a long chat with him about things tonight. It does seem like he's pretty comfortable in the situation now and i don't think it will be easy for him to change if he is. Perhaps he doesn't realize just how important this is to me or doesn't care much. I can learn to live with his attentive flaws cuz yea, i realize a lot of people have those. The biggest issue is needing security for our future together though and if he refuses to try harder then i just can't continue this.