Do you go see a therapist together still? I find that talking to people about difficult issues that it is better to do it on neutral ground, so a.) you don't flip out and b.) they don't flip out. When it's just me an my husband at home, one person starts yelling, then the other person starts yelling, then I start throwing stuff....etc.

Also, calm down. Remember that assume = making an *** out of u and me. So it's good to not assume. Which is really hard, especially when all the thoughts are going on at one time. Take a few minutes to just chill and think about the positive aspects of your marriage.

Good Luck.