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Originally Posted by Sannah
I have a CBT test! If you feel you have to force yourself to change those thoughts, something ain't right! Correct CBT brings natural changes in the thoughts once the lightbulb goes off. I am really, really against any kind of force. Actually, I would never tell anyone to change their thoughts. I would start to help them discover why they have them and what they mean.
I still think that it is negative. I guess we will just have to agree to disagree. You call it a fact or observation. I feel my explanation is an argument for a certain explanation after an observation. I don't feel that either can be called facts.
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Generally in CBT/DBT, no one TELLS you that your thoughts are irrational or FORCES you to change your thinking. You learn to recognize the distortions and irrational thoughts yourself and you decide what to do about them. CBT is not supposed to invalidate feelings.
If I am thinking thoughts, like i am unloveable because my mother abandoned me when I was little, how does it help me to feel those sad feelings that follow? How does talking in therapy about how unloveable I am help? It's not true that I am unloveble and that thought causes lots of other problems when I allow myself to keep thinking that. My therapist would rather me talk about the abandonment and how I feel about that, NOT the feeling caused by the thought that i am unlovebale. Often. we don't even recognize that we have these thoughts and just feel the feelings. cBT therapist will help you learn to recognize the thoughts that cause the feelings in the moment, and you learn to change how you feel. It's so much easier to deal with reality and then process the sadness of the losses that often start the secondary negative thinking.