I do believe that life is a journey.....we can have good and bad moments....good and bad events.....but it's up to us how to look at them....how to turn them into a good thing or a sad thing....it's like we are watching a movie of ourselves....and we are the actors and actress of the movie....we can laugh at our misfortunes or we can cry over them.....
I don't like those books telling me how to think about money stuff and get rich....and that's the positive thinking....or think stupidly about relationships and then boom the guy would magically fall in love with me....no....those are big B.S. and are not positive thinking....those are just trying to control things and other people....that's not good at all!!!! that doesn't bring happiness....actually, I think opposite, it will bring sadness if it doesn't work!
I specially didn't like the book "Secret"....I found it very commercial....and I could not even finish that book....arggg....
What I find real and true is what I'm learning from Buddhism and meditation class that I'm going....and learning how to find happiness through compassion and understanding that most of sufferings are coming from attachments.....and understand that the challenges in life are there to make me stronger and more patient.....
well....that's my believe....and I'm still new to the whole subject....but it's really working for me....and I enjoy it....I love the way that I'm watching what I'm thinking and if I'm trapping so much in past or future, then I tell myself "past and future don't exist yet...leave them alone Marjan....enjoy this breathing time or enjoy this music...."
Yes...music, dancing, reading, writing and exercising are making me focus to my present moment.....
I used to go to my dance class and if Aaron wasn't showing up, I was so sad and not wanting to dance at all.....I even quite my dancing for awhile when I found out he walked into the class with the new girl.....oh god, that was so painful....now, I'm free of that attachment.....although, I still see him handsome and I have the chemistry with him and it won't be enjoyable seeing him with somebody else.....but that's the reality of life....he won't stay alone....and I hope I won't stay alone too....I love my dance class for now, and I want to go without feeling that attachment to him....so....I set myself free from attachment and it feels great.....
I'm hoping to be helpful here.....just wanted to say that....if you have a bad day, just wait a moment, breath and try it....little by little.....
with love
Marjan