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Originally Posted by Myers
Unlike a narcissist, people with Asperger syndrome are unable to recognize and mimic non-verbal communication and others emotions. They wouldn't be able to "turn on the charm" like a narcissist would. And they are noted as poor liars. Narcissists, on the other hand, will say anything to get what they want, which is usually your attention. If she is a narcissist, I'd stay away from her. They don't make for very good friends to begin with.
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Yeah, ironically we've been best friends for many years. Even though I was constantly used and abused, she somehow had a way of making me feel important and special. In her own words, "Most people get on my nerves by this point but you're the exception". That was about 6 months into the friendship. I'll spare you the long....long story since I'm now 90% sure she has NPD.
She recently has developed more and more friendships and I was getting kind of pushed aside so it became more and more evident that I was being used and that "specialness" that I felt began to go away. I began telling her "no" to things or expecting things in return. She then told me that she needed "space" and couldn't handle all the obligations of being my best friend. So, that's what I did. I gave her space. Now, that has turned into a kind of torture for me in that she is in control of when we talk or get together. She told me the one day, "well, you can call me once in awhile too". Yet every time I do, she either doesn't answer or is too busy to talk. Once again, she has managed to make it "on her terms".
She has recently told me that she knows something is "off" with her and thinks that she has either Asperger's or some kind of PD. I even see some attempts where she is trying to be, in her words, "the understanding friend". Question is......is she really trying to be a better person or is her current method just not working on her other friends right now? So, in order to get what she wants, she needs to adapt?
Further thoughts?