[quote=mixedup_emotions;1300346]I totally know what you're going through as far as your mixed feelings about reporting T.....I have those same feelings about my ex-husband. He needs to suffer the consequences of his actions, but yet there's times when I feel weak....focusing on the good parts and minimizing the bad....and ultimately feeling stuck.
Mixed, ( I guess you do get is since it is part of your name)

Doesn't it make you feel crazy? My T says this is normal and that mixed feelings are better than black and white thinking. Doesn't seem like it to me, I so wish I could put him the that black hole but I can't. As much of a jerk he has been, it is hard to forget the good.

Luckily for me, my ex continues to do things and say things that knock me back into reality....But it is oh so hard during the weak moments.



I can see how hard it would be. My T says sometimes this relationship I had with him seems like a marriage. The come here-go away thing and all that.

And I'm so sorry about your guinea pig. It is so hard to deal with death with kids. We had a cat that died when my daughter was younger, and it was incredibly heartbreaking to tell her and deal with her horrible feelings of grief and sadness. I didn't want my daughter to hurt, and there was nothing I could do to make the hurt go away.

I think I am learning the right way now too. Growing up , my family was really weird about death. For my kids, they have had grandparents and other relatives die, but for their pets, it seems more personal for them.
You are right it is SO hard to watch them in pain and not do anything to make it go away.
I learned, though, how important that lesson was - because she was able to understand death at a young enough age so that when her pop-pop (my dad) died when she was 5, that wasn't her first experience with death. He dropped dead right in front of her....and I still don't think she's processed it.

That does sound scary, is she still kinda scared about that happening to you or other people. But you sound like a good mom, who probably is helping her with it. Thanks so much for your support!