Thread: Jasper, my brother
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Old Feb 24, 2010, 12:21 AM
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Originally Posted by Blue93 View Post
there's no one left to celebrate or mourn anything with
my brother has always been the only person in my life i could trust
dont know my family
certainly cant trust my parents...
its just a really.. lonely.. feeling.. i guess.. hard to describe
its such a cliché but it truly feels as if my heart has been ripped out the day he died
from what we saw, he was like a base for you and gave your life some meaning and purpose. so we would think it would be like losing part of yourself. we are sorry his loss is still so sharp. we are thinking of you and sending some gentle warmth ~~~~~~
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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