I think its also a feeling of connecting to our core, and most times its as we're in mourning for that part of ourself that we had to split off so as to survive, to please the hand that fed us and then we begin to Experience through a healthy relationship ie T what being ourself is and its that experience that feels so delightful...at first we think its our imitation of T's finer qualities that makes us feel so good, but that passes and we know those qualities are ours, we begin to Know whats us and whats other, and we feel that in our marriages/relationships and at last we feel complete, but mourn how we once were because its so familair?