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Originally Posted by MissCharlotte
I have these connected moments, and I want MORE of them.
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ME TOO... And what I am finding on the other side of that is...I am less and less interested in relationships and interactions that DON'T have this.
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I am coming round to believing that the deep connection occurs when I can BE with him in the room without dissociating, pulling back, becoming my child self, and we CONNECT.
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Miss C, as we've chatted before on this topic, I withdraw and disconnect too but for me..I don't think my ego states or inner children take over or leave. I don't totally "dissociate". Disconnect or distance myself is a better word to describe what happens to me. In my T relationship...it seems like the deeper connections and feeling of deeper understanding and real empathy occur more when I am able to Be with ME and her at the same time.
IDK, I'm starting to think..the potential for that deeper connection is always there, with her, with my bodyworker, maybe even with H. I just need to stop judging and being so uncomfortable and unaccepting of the different aspects (ego states) floating around inside.
IDK, certainly the person you are interacting with has to be open and also trying to connect on a deeper level with you too, but I think the scarity of these interactions is because of me.
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As T says, it's the true intimacy that I am afraid of--
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Yes! Me too. I just really still, for whatever reason predominately believe that I am different, that the issues and emotions presented by my inner states are abnormal, wrong, evil, not consistent with what the other person feels towards me...and I hide.