Thread: Asking for help
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Old Feb 24, 2010, 01:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Fenrir View Post
The notion of weakness and strength- asking for help is weak. Needing help is weak. Wanting help is weak.

I want to be strong. But my notion of strong is skewed.

I still see them as strong. I mistake strength for twisted power and physical superiority. They never asked for help, they never needed help.
This dynamic of power and weakness seems to have left such an imprint on you. You see only one side or the other? You can't escape this dyad? With this dyad there is only victims and perpetrators. There isn't any other way to live.

This dyad was a choice of your dysfunctional family.

You know what, you can choose to throw this dyad completely away. You can choose to live a different way that doesn't even consider this old, worn out dynamic. A person can live a life without power or weakness. There is another way...............
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Thanks for this!
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