Does it have to be one thing, can you be pulling back and manufacturing a rupture and being confused at the same time. Hey I'm confused all the time. Every therapist/paitent relationship has an imballance. I only have one therapist (like most people), and she has many paients (like all therapists) so what is a uniquie relationship for me is just one of many for her. But when she sees me as one of many paitents, I'm sure she sees all of her paitents as uniquie people and has uniquie feelings for each of us. I would guess that is the same situation for your therapist and how he feels about you.
I actually worry about my therapist, having to carry around all of the cr@p that I tell her, feeling at least to an extent that she is responsiblie for making me better.
I really hope she doesn't worry about me though I can't help but worry about her.
And a child growing up isn't "stupid" they are trusting and need love, all childeren do, and those who don't get it well we have problems but the lack of love in our early lives are NO WAY our fault.