I am with Splash. The guy paying for your stuff is SUPPOSED to be a nice gesture. But he insisted and insisted and would not take no for an answer. This is a BIG warning signal. But I will take it a step farther, now he thinks he has you in his debt which could have been his plan all along that is how some prediters operate. I personally would cut it off. You did not express that you liked him all that much so he didn't seem to have impressed you and to have him NOT respect your wishes the other night is an indication that he is not going to respect your wishes in other things as well.

I could be wrong, but when I read your post the hairs went up on the back of my neck. Remember you DO NOT owe him anything and don't let him make you think you do. Also don't feel like you did anything wrong. I got the vibe that you may think that you were wrong for meeting this guy and people would judge you for it. Don't worry about that, people meet people on line all the time it is not much different from meeting a person in a bar. You did good meeting him in a safe public place but he talked you into doing something you were not comfortable with (getting in his car). Ask yourself why did you do it even though it made you uncomfortable. This is a great opportunity for gaining insight in your own behavior.
Take care and be careful,
Zen
PS Call your T! Don't let feeling imbarrassed get in the way of the help your therapist is there to give.<font color=purple>

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