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Old Feb 26, 2010, 09:39 AM
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Knowing them nothing will get solved.
And this usually is how it happens. They have had these issues for what 30 years? Accepting this is hard.

But if you heal, them seeing you behaving in a healthy way could affect them, but you have to heal first. This sort of happened with me. After I healed I could step back and not enter the dysfunction. With my healthier responses, this did affect my parents in a positive way. Is my mom all healed and better? No, but my interaction with her is not as dysfunctional anymore and this is a positive.

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I want to but I'm not sure if it would be best for me to still have contact and visit during that time.
You will be able to figure this out as it progresses. Save the future for the future.........
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