Hi, I think Darkpurplesecrets put it perfectly.

A good start will be, every time you have the urge to bake a cake (I do not find this funny, but rather very honest of you) - stop yourself and say to yourself 'No. I deserve to be treated nicely and I will bake a cake only for those who appreciate me as I am, respect me and love me'. After few times of resisting this urge it will become easier.

When we use the method of 'pleasing someone' to make it all better again, we do not only try receive love but also believe that it is our responsibility to make it all bettter. It is not your responsibility. Dealing with the bad feeling of someone hurting you can be tough but the bad feeling goes away in the end. Its better to deal with this feeling than to try to make it better since only the person who hurt may be able to make it better. Not you. All you do is create an illusion from which you are more hurt. But I suspect you know this already.

Now, I would go and bake a cake for myself every time I say 'you will not treat me this way. I deserve better!'

Stay cool xx