Dear person,

Having read what you have written........and knowing that you are in foreign lands.......I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you.

But I feel from your tone, that you have your answer already.

You have great insight......you are very good at your job.......you get praise from your superiors......you have left a dangerous and damaging home life to become a very honourable, brave and devoted man, to yourself and to your country.

I do not doubt that you deeply love this person, but I wonder if they love themselves? And if she does not, you cannot teach her. She must learn to love herself on her own. You can support her, but do not give yourself up in the process. Give nothing that you were not prepared to live without in the first place.

You sound like a lovely, caring person who deserves to be loved in the most pure of ways. Do not accept anything less. She cannot have her cake and eat it too. I imagine that she loves you too in her own way, but it is unhealthy. There is no trust, and where there is no trust, there is no friendship, no loyalty, no honour......

As you would expect your fellow soldiers to have your back, so must you expect it from people who you love. It is no different.

Love thyself and all else shall follow........get rid of all things that are dark, and the light of all things will come to you.......I guarantee it

Take good care.......of your precious self.

In stillness,

Michah