Hi Hope, sounds like you had a pretty bad day yesterday. Yes, the admins can change your name somewhat, but if you stay logged in on your home computer there are a number of ways that anyone can come back and see what you are posting.

That being said, my husband knows I come here. He has his own account that I don't fiddle with. He doesn't use mine. Most of the time, if I post something he will come and read it. For us, it has been a good thing. It's helped me tell him things that I can't verbally tell him.

You need to do what is best for you. I agree that discussing not only your posts but the breach of trust that occured with your daughter is a good thing. She needs to understand that a personal boundary was violated. I would equate it to you searching her room and reading her diary as a teenager.

I hope things settle down. Keep us informed.