Thanks guys. You really provide some great input. Things have already been improving between us so that is giving me hope that we can work it out in the long run. I don't want to give up. Any relationship can work if both people really love/trust each other and are willing to work at it.

We have our first appointment for couples therapy tomorrow. I'm really nervous about it cuz I am usually not comfortable talking face to face about personal problems to people i don't know. He at least knows more about what to expect cuz he's been to a therapist before, but i haven't so i'm a bit in the dark about it all. I printed out all the paperwork so we can fill it out beforehand to save time, but some questions on it i'm just not comfortable answering (even though i know the answers could help us).

I plan on talking about all these issues that i shared here at the forums so i am curious to see what the therapist is going to say. I am hoping the therapist can give him more confidence to look for a job.