Thanks for all the nice words. What can I make of the fact that not only did she not respect my wish to not respond - she replied - saying simply that she was available to talk any time whenever should I change my mind. I didnt reply. Then today she sent me another lengthy email saying that we could easily "uncross" the line and she would like that and would I reconsider - and so forth. It's strange. I can't believe I got myself into this mess.