This is an interesting topic...I like reading all of the responses!

Where I look varies, for me. T has a window, but it's behind me, so I can't really look out it. I think I make eye contact sometimes, but I definitely look away when we talk about uncomfortable topics (and for me...most personal things are uncomfortable, so I guess I look away a lot.) I tend to look at the floor, or just down in general (maybe like the lower wall, or something). I think sometimes I just want to look ANYWHERE but at him, especially when it's really uncomfortable.

He has really good eye contact though...every time I've looked up (that I can remember, anyway) he was always "there" and ready for eye contact. I've never looked up and found him looking away/daydreaming/seeming as though he wasn't listening. He is a very active listener. He's not pushy about eye contact, though...I think he understands that it's hard for me (anyone!) to talk about personal things in such a candid way. I really like that about him.