I am also a firm believer that confidence shows in body languge etc. Ever notice that when your in a great relationship and content you will have 10x's more women flirting with you, yet when lonely, sad and single its more rare? As for seeking answers, I partially agree with others. Ask a woman who you know and trust, female friends are best. I would tackle it head on. I would ask things like, "what could I do to increase my appeal?" Or "Is there anything you see me doing wrong?" "any tips?"