((((Tree)))) Im sorry IK am just catching up now. After reading through the responses I agree that feeling safe there isnt a step backwards at all. For one, I think there are often different levels of feeling safe. You felt safe probably when you were with T 6 months. But there is a different level of safety you feel with him now. And Maybe during stressful,m difficult issues, its enough to feel that deep safety you feel with him and with no one else. You have moved beyond just feeling safe. You have established a relationship with him unlike any other. But while bringing up just the things that SAWE said, trauma that makes everyone unsafe, everyone not believable, leaning back comfortably on feeling safe is not a bad thing at all. You are so incredibly fortunate to have reached such a level of safety with him.

So, in a way, it IS moving forward. You have the progress you have made, nothing can take that away, yet you have this soft, comfortable pillow to lean back on when you are shaky and uncomfortable. Im very proud of you