I'm certainly not an expert but I do have ocd. Just from what you said he seems more controlling than to be exhibiting ocd characteristics (this is strictly from my point of view). While sometimes the things other people do, in a certain way or whatever, upset me, I am far more likely to be doing the compulsive behavior myself. Like I'm ticky about how things are arranged and whatnot, but I just do the arranging myself. If someone comes along and changes what I have arranged, I just fix it back the way I want it. The only time I tend to get upset about something that I am particularly compulsive about is time! I cannot be late for things. It creates unbelievable stress within me and I will rush everyone to get to a place WAY early so that I can be "on time". My husband is really very late. I mean, all the time, so I do end up fussing about this. But its generally not in an ultra mean way. Anyway, long story short is that he seems to be more on the controlling side than having obsessions and compulsions. Of course, I am sure there is more to the story. If you would like to share some things you think are "OCD" behaviors, it might make it easier for me to understand and to help you with, if I can.