Annieinside - I understand what your saying and it's hard putting feelings aside. I can't do it no mater how hard I try. But I do agree with Wendy - you need to let this person know, even in a note, the situation she put you in and that it was HER responsibility to take care of it on her end. And ask her if she feel she can continue to volenteer, or should you remove her from the list.... You shouldn't have to go throught this again due to someone else's lack of caring. I hope this helps... Hugs to you!!