hello , thanks Seeker for your response ..I have posted 4 times... a long story but my first post was on 12/10/03 explaining things "wish his mother would butt out". my second was on 6/27/04 "Should I stay or go ?" then 8/13/04 "How do I get over him ?" and then today "Saying I'm sorry ".. just incase you get bored and would like to read something lol ,,,anyways ,Im here because I am confused and need to let it out ,,I would like to say" Thank you to everyone who has responded " This sight is Great !! just to hear another persons opinion helps because sometimes when we are angry or hurt we dont see things clearly ..I have no problem admitting when Im wrong and I do it alot just to keep everyone happy ..take care ,,thank you again Bee