You are in a bad, awkward situation. You love him but don't like what he is doing. Unfortunately, you can't do anything to change it unless he wants help. Sometimes people have to reach rock bottom before they want to get help and change their situations. My advice, try to stay in the children's lives. Obviously, you are in touch with him or at least someone who knows him and you since you know how he reacted to the garnishment. Although you may want to know what is happening in his life and in keeping a line open to him, you will have to deal with knowing that you can't do anything about it. I hope we, as a group, can help you with the support you seek.

I couldn't tell from your your entry what your relationship with him is, other than family.