Geez Louise - any caring person, who has a 17 year old visiting them would have done just what you did ! I dont think there was anything inappropriate in your note to her, and for the staff to even THINK that it was inappropriate concerns me. IS it a good place? I can understand them not allowing her to participate in things if they do not have her stablized, and if they are unable to have a treatment plan - perhaps due to wanting records etc. I am glad her Mom came, and I think that you should make it VERY clear to them in the meeting they requested how this had made you feel, and also how you accepted responsibility for someones child, and you fullfilled it, as if this were your own child. SHEESH - that whole thing ticks me off!!!!! Stay strong, and strong in your belief that you did what was right, and in the child's best interest.......don't let those jerks make you think any different !

I do hope the girl will soon be better !