((((( Googley ))))) man - you nail it! It really is hard to talk about stuff that no one in the universe knows.... But that is also the beauty and grace of having a T.
We get to share our burden with one other person who is bound by law and ethics to not tell anyone else. We can share and not worry that anyone else will find out about the stuff. Even still, what a task it is to summon up the courage to tell that very first person.

Just go very slowly and break it down into small workable pieces.