I guess I'm lucky. My psych NP called a perinatal psychiatrist, and a pharmacy advisory service based out of University of Washington when I turned up pregnant last year. If your pdoc won't help you, I would look for a perinatal psychiatrist.

Perinatal psychiatrists are pretty cool folks, they spend their careers figuring out the safest way to get mom and baby through the pregnancy and postpartum. I think most of them are based out of big hospitals.

I love the Dr Hale manual, we use it all the time at my job. Breastfeeding is possible when bipolar and taking meds, but certain ones require much more monitoring than others.