i was married for 5 years with my ex wife and had been together 8yrs, it took me a year or moreto finally get over the hurt and pain, then i met a crush from high school and we went together for 13yrs and felt almost no grief when we broke up, even now she is engaged and we are are still good friends, i actually felt bad about not feelinf bad, then 3 months ago, my gf of 5+ yrs and i broke up and i have felf more pain then either of the other 2 realtionships combined, i wish you luck and hope you hang in there and pray, its helped me....