Can you bring up your fears and just ask T if that is what is being said?
Sometimes it pays off to articulate what we think we hear.
It allows T the chance to clarify and correct any misconceptions.

It can be a scary thing to do - I had to do it recently when I thought I heard T say something about "making up" things. For me, that is a big trigger because when I told teachers and other adults about the abuse happening to me, I was told that I was making up stories. It made me hypersensitive to being called a liar or being told I was making things up. So when I heard that phrase in therapy, my guard walls shot up and I shut down. I did not even remember the rest of the session. But the very next session, I did get up the guts to bring it up first thing. That was one of the most difficult things I have ever had to do in my life. I was risking T confirming what I heard as correct - which would have devistated me. But I had to know... so I asked.

Boy was I glad I did! I was completly off base. He was talking about some type of thing the mind does with relationships in seeing what we think is real rather than what is fact about the other person. Which was totally not close to what I thought he meant! He then took the time to sit back and clearly tell me for a fact that he did believe what I was telling him about my past and there was no question at all about that in his mind.

Bottom line was that asking for clarification might be risky, but it sure does clear the air!