Everyone above makes excellent points. We can't make diagnoses over the Web, and each problem is unique regardless of the label(s) we attach to it.
I am particularly distressed, Michah, for what you had to endure.
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Problem is I look at all these new friends that she has and can't help but ask myself, "What did I do wrong?"
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Guess: You did nothing wrong. Your friend "shifted." Maybe a personality disorder is behind the shift, maybe a medical or psychological issue, maybe something altogether different, and maybe all or some combination of the above. I suspect it's something over which you have no control.
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Originally Posted by no1uno
I just don't get it. I've done so much for her. I just don't get it. I miss my friend. I miss being her best friend. I think I'm the only person that she has EVER really opened up to. You would think that would mean something to someone.
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Ordinarily, yes; your giving relationship of years would mean something. Yet all it takes is a little change in brain chemistry or function to effect a tremendous shift in personality. I suspect your friendship is still there in your friend's mind, but that mind has shunted you to a siding. Your friend may have done it deliberately, or semi-consciously, or even unconsciously.
For you, the result is the pain of a disrupted friendship. I join the others in suggesting you take care of yourself first at this time.
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