Is the subtle verbal abuse you referred to by your husband or someone else? It sounds like the same pattern is playing itself out in the therapy also, as your husband constantly criticizes you. Often, therapy works by providing a medium for those patterns that are a problem in your life, and it can be beneficial when you are able to recognize those patterns and learn how to change them. Even if you were verbally abused by someone other than your husband, recognizing it in therapy gives you a chance to address it. You can ask the therapist if she notices the critical comments also, and talk about how that feels. You might want to consider individual therapy at least for a while, to build your confidence and sense of being empowered to speak up for your needs.