(((((sanityseeker)))))

Think Pegs said it well. Our children desire to have boundaries set but love to push parents to see where they actually are.

Your son will continually say he will do better but nothing more than that until he is finally forced to act on his words.

You are lucky that he does get around to cleaning up the mess & doing his homework.....some kids are so disrespectful they don't even do that.

I agree....you need to breath......get your strength together & ask your son if you can have a word with him......You can talk to him in another room so you don't embarrass him infront of his friends.....then he can go back in & let his friends know that it's time to "break it up".

It's important for us to be able to be assertive enough to stand up for what we have to for our own self care. We can be assertive without getting angry....a little self control. I found for myself that I would only blow up if I was already pushed to my overload point.....then it was only a moment. If I hadn't been pushed, I was able to be calm. After 33 years in my husband & all I could to is explode....there was no point between pushed & explode......but I had already been pushed so far.

I know you can do this....& all will be better off

Best wishes