I wonder if anyone has some advice:

My bf has a drinking problem. He drinks every evening from about 6pm- normally a beer and 2 glasses of wine, some times more. On weekends this starts at lunch time.

I have posted here before - as I was thinking what do with our relationship and as I was ready to leave. He is very committed to our relationship but refuses to set a wedding date (and I posted about that before). Ever since he was dismissed from work - some 2 months ago - his drinking worsened. Although he was let go with a decent package and early retirement he is very down about it. We also moved house at the same time. As his drinking got worse - he became more and more abusive and controlling (swearing, shouting, calling names and being very angry). It escalated to the point where I left for 5 days telling him it was over between us. (I posted about that too) -but then when I came back we both were so sad and did not want to let go of the other. His kids and ex wife give us hell because we are together and I know he founds it hard but does not want to split up. The kids almost stopped coming to our house completely now as they keep telling him not to marry me. Anyway - on a number of occasions he admitted that he has a drinking problem. Every time he would stop for a few days but then always get back to drinking, which starts with a glass of wine and each night increases. I am actually disgusted whenever I see a glass of wine in his hand.

I have not got much experience with alcoholics as no one in my family is and none of my ex's were. So my question is - is there anything I can say / do that may help / cause him to take positive lasting action? I feel that my relationship is at stake here... his health and both our happiness...

Any thoughts / advice are welcome. T

p.s. we have been living together for over 2 years