I agree with Elysium, you have to take care of you and if someone in your life is trying to control or manipulate you then it is best you keep them at a safe distance. I love my mother but she is a bit manipulative and controlling so I do my best to not let her do that to me. I call in and say I mom love you and I am well and then it's time to say goodbye pretty much. Not easy but it's what I have to do with her after years of trying to get her to understand and she doesn't. I wish you peace.