((((((((((((Paddykins)))))))))))
I understand how hard it can be to put your foot down, but this woman sounds like she doesn't need or apprceiate what you and your partner are doing for her.
As hard as it is, you need to put a stop to it, it's desrespectful to you and your partner, and it isn't ya'lls responsibilty to take care of her, and her snarky remarks and desrespect to you is WAY out of line.
cutting her off, doesn't make you selfish or rude, it's you taking care of yourself and your partner, remeber your self care is very important hun
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