Good thread, I have to say though and I am not sure if anyone else feels like this but the fact that I have had an abusive childhood means that based on statistics, psychology evaluations etc, I am more likely to end up in an abusive/destructive relationship myself. As it so happens, all the relationships I have been in have been destructive but I blame part of that on the fact that is what is the norm for someone in my shoes, in fact I now expect negativity in a relationship so I make concious effort to avoid getting romantically involved with anyone. All the psychological data just helps to reinforce the belief that mostly abused kids get in to abusive relationships.