It sucks to have a narcisstic parent. I can so relate.

Maybe you've already done this... but with my mom... I have an answering machine and if she sounds agitated, I don't pick up the phone.
I've even told her once "mom, I'm not going there with you. I am willing and would love to talk to you when you can be kind".... then I hung up.

through therapy I've learned to NOT ALLOW myself to get caught up in my mother's drama and self-pity. We do have control in many ways. We can teach people how to treat us and what we will tolerate-- it may take a long while but people are trainable.

I've decided if it means not talking to my mother for 6 months then that's what it means. I can still send her birthday gifts, Christmas gifts and Mother's day greetings but -- I don't have to engage myself into her abusing me.....

I just hate that you-- a loving daughter-- are not being respected the way you so deserve. I imagine your mother will do it again........ that really sucks.....

fins