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Originally Posted by Sannah
Z, it seems that this DBT program is just a program. You follow the program, you call T like the program says, T responds like the program tells her to. It sounds like this is what is so triggering for you. You are not a program! You are a person who wants an individual response like you are a person. You are getting a canned, programmed response because your T is following the program like she is supposed to..............
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I agree and disagree with this, sannah. I guess that's the dialectic at work, lol!
You are right that DBT is a program, with protocols for both the client and the T to follow, protocols that have been found to work scientifically. DBT has truly been a lifesaver for me, literally, as TayQuincy says. So I try to remember that the DBT protocols are a part of that.
However, it's not as if the T, or MY T in particular since I don't know any others, is some kind of a robot or emotionless automaton. Also, my T has been practicing for 20 years and most of that was before she was trained in DBT so she does use other therapeutic approaches.
The thing about DBT is that it DOES work, and it works because and only if the T follows the protocols. But within that framework they can and hopefully will respond with empathy and compassion and warmth. I know my T usually does, but I also am hyper-sensitive to rejection and abandonment so when she is not perhaps as warm or caring (in my perception) as usual it triggers me.
anyway, I hope that makes some sense. I can just add that DBT is why I'm here today, why I'm alive, so I won't knock it, even though sometimes it seems too strict and "by the book".