Thanks for the feedback, Blue. I never know who's going to understand what until I actually run it by them and they say something.

Yes, all you really have to work with is specific instances -- and the only way to tell how you're doing is by how the next specific instance goes.

If you look really closely at a specific instance that you're accustomed to calling one thing -- unworthy, un-intimate, or whatever -- it no longer looks the same and you may have to come up with some different words for it.

ECHOES' title for this thread sounds like an example of that: when you're looking closely at your experience of what you're doing, it starts to look different ways to you -- like either struggling or delving deeper, for instance. When that happens to me, it says I'm on the right track.