Hey,

I have similar problem..no spark but he is kind and gentle and would give me the world if he could.
I think that if the spark isn't there and you don't go weak in the knees then it's not going to happen later (imo)

I think that being direct about not feeling it is the best way... I know that as much as it hurts I prefer to be told things directly and I feel that others deserve it too

Best of Luck!