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Old Mar 02, 2010, 10:37 AM
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Yes I agree we do sometimes have to be like detectives in trying to figure out children. I was painfully shy as a child and definately had trouble articulating my feelings. I was raised when they were allowed to use the strap, so I was terrified of getting in trouble. One time our class was being watched by another teacher while our teacher went to the doctors. She told us not to get out of our seats but another kid threw my pencil across the room - I forgot and got up to get it. The teacher walked in and slapped me several times with a ruler. I was mortified because I was never disciplined physically at home. So I ended up pretending to be sick for a week, until I finally told my mother. She flipped out and called the school on my behalf.

Luckily both my girls are very out going but my 8 yr old occasionally gets worried about being prepared at school. Over Xmas vacation I saw her crying and when I asked her - she said she was worried about not remembering the story they were reading before Xmas break. This teacher who comes in to read in mean.

Sunrise - I'm glad you're more patient with your own kids. I'm sorry you weren't made to feel comfortable when you were younger. I think children learn how to solve problems when they know they can come to their parents and be open. But we also don't want to constantly rescue children, turning into 'helicopter parents'. If we always solve their problems for them, they'll never learn the skills themselves. I've heard of graduate students applying for jobs and their parents calling for them, to see if they got the job lol.
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