I to have a drinking problem and didn't know where it came from. I realized one day that I drink because I am depressed. Which a lot of men do. It's our way of dealing with reality. I've been laid off from jobs in the past to, it was really hard for me because I also have kids. I laid awake at night wondering how I was going to support my family. The stress would get to me so I would drink. You can't help someone if they don't want help. Sorry thats probably the last thing you wanted to hear, but it's true. I've recently started going to church and that along with the right meds. , and a caring wife I've cut back a lot on my drinking and the next step is to quit. I always tell myself "do you want your kids to have a drinking problem to". If I keep going on this road more then likely my kids will. There is nothing wrong with a drink here and there, it's when the binge drinking comes into play. It's not healthy for him, you or the kids. Good Luck.