I think it's hard for anyone, never mind if they're a medical or mental health professional, to "know what to say" when we say or do something outside their experience? I still remember when I told my T bluntly that my previous T had sexually abused me. She was older, experienced, and very good but still, remembering the stunned silence "amuses" me; she finally said the "right" thing for me and we moved on.

It was probably your doctor's first time hearing what you had to say and many people can't/don't want to imagine such things. I would try to look at it a little from her point of view and feel a bit of compassion coming across such a person as you and not having a clue what to say/do. Think how, unfortunately, much more mature you are in that you would have handled it better than she, having had the experience you've had. It's like watching a child on a blooper show/American's Funniest Videos, the shock of new experience.

Don't feel alone and sad, Googley, we get it here and are with you :-)