All this is speculation, because I don't know him and haven't heard from him exactly how he feels, etc. I can see him being worried over your welfare and that being a compulsion of sorts, but I don't see how that translates into him trying to control how you do everything as part of his ocd. Its really hard to say. Sometimes I am being bossy to my husband because he doesn't do things exactly how I want and I KNOW its my problem, but I still do it. I guess it comes down to how much you are willing to tolerate and how much he is willing to try to back off of the pressure he puts on you. Does he apologize for his behavior? Does he try to change the way he acts and reacts to things you do?